Blessing Of Ramzan: The Excellence of Daughters and Trust in Allah’s Wisdom

Desire not being fulfilled is also reward

Dear Islamic brothers! Did you see how wishes and hopes are fulfilled, grief turns into happiness and difficulty into ease due to the blessings of Madanī Qāfilahs. However, it is not necessary that each and every desire will be fulfilled. Sometimes man desires things that aren't beneficial to him and thus his wishes are not satisfied. In such cases, not being granted what one desires is actually a blessing. For instance, a man might ask for a son but the birth of a daughter might actually be better for him. Our Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ says in the 216th verse of Sūrah Baqarah (part 2):

عَسٰٓى اَنْ تَكْرَهُوْا شَيْـًٔا وَّهُوَ خَيْرٌ لَّكُمْ

It may happen that anything may be liked by you and that may not be in your favour.

[Kanz-ul-Īmān (Translation of Quran)] (Part 2, Sūrah Baqarah, verse 216)

Excellence of daughter

Remember! The birth of a daughter is a great blessing. Here are 3 Sayings of the Holy Prophet صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم in this regard:

1. The man who brings up three daughters will enter Heaven and will be rewarded the same as a warrior who fights (in the way of Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ) in the state of fast and offers Ṣalāh. (Attargīb Wattarhīb, pp. 46, vol. 3, Hadīš 26)
2. Whoever has three daughters or three sisters and treats them well will enter Heaven. (Jāmi' Tirmiżī, pp. 366, vol. 3, Hadīš 1919)
3. If someone brings up three daughters or sisters by teaching them manners and treating them well until they become independent (by either reaching puberty or getting married or getting wealth) Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ will make him enter paradise. (Ash'at-ul-Lam'āt, pp. 132, vol. 4) When the honourable companion’s رَضِیَ اللّٰهُ عَنْهُمْ heard this saying they enquired, 'If he brings up two girls?' He صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم replied, 'He will gain the same reward.' And if people had asked about (bringing up) one (girl) he would have replied the same. (Sharḥ-us-Sunnah, pp. 452, vol. 6, Hadīš 3351)

Mother of the believers, Sayyidatunā 'Āishah Ṣiddīqah رَضِیَ اللّٰهُ عَنْهَا has said, 'A woman came to me along with her two daughters and began to beg¹. I had nothing but a date which I gave to her. She split the date between her two daughters and left without eating any of it herself. Then, when beloved Rasūl صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم came I told him of this incident. He صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم said: [If] the one made responsible for these girls, treats them well, they will become a shield for him against fire (Hell).' (Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim, pp. 414, Hadīš 2629)

Dear Islamic brothers! Why will mercy not be showered upon the Madanī environment and Sunnah-Inspiring Ijtimā'āt of Dawat-e-Islami as many Auliyā رَحْمَةُ اللّٰه might be present amongst all these devotees of Rasūl.

A'lā Ḥaḍrat رَحْمَةُ اللّٰه عَلَيْه has said: There are blessings in congregations. The supplications made in congregations of Muslims are more likely to be fulfilled. Scholars have said wherever 40 pious Muslims gather there will definitely be a Walī of Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ amongst them. (Fatāwā Razawiyyah referenced, pp. 184, vol. 24, Tafsīr Sharḥ Jāmi'-uṣ-Ṣag͟hīr, pp. 312, vol. 1, Hadīš 714)

Even if your prayer appears to be unanswered you must avoid uttering words of complaint. Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ knows what is better for us. We must be grateful to Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ at all times, if He عَزَّوَجَلَّ gives you a boy thank him, if He عَزَّوَجَلَّ gives you a girl thank him, if He عَزَّوَجَلَّ gives you both them, and if He عَزَّوَجَلَّ doesn't give you either still thank him in all states and circumstances. Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ says in verses 49 and 50 of Sūrah Shūrā:

لِلّٰهِ مُلْكُ السَّمٰوٰتِ وَالْاَرْضِۗ يَخْلُقُ مَا يَشَآءُ ۭ يَهَبُ لِمَنْ يَّشَآءُ اِنَاثًا وَّيَهَبُ لِمَنْ يَّشَآءُ الذُّكُوْرَ (۴۹) اَوْ يُزَوِّجُهُمْ ذُكْرَانًا وَّاِنَاثًا ۚ وَيَجْعَلُ مَنْ يَّشَآءُ عَقِيْمًا ۭ اِنَّهٗ عَلِيْمٌ قَدِيْرٌ (۵۰)

For Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ is the Kingdom of the heavens and the earth, He عَزَّوَجَلَّ creates whatever He عَزَّوَجَلَّ likes. He عَزَّوَجَلَّ bestows daughters on whoever He عَزَّوَجَلَّ likes and He عَزَّوَجَلَّ bestows sons on whoever He عَزَّوَجَلَّ likes. Or He عَزَّوَجَلَّ couples both, the sons and the daughters, and He عَزَّوَجَلَّ makes whoever He عَزَّوَجَلَّ likes barren. Undoubtedly, He عَزَّوَجَلَّ is all-knowing, the omnipotent.

[Kanz-ul-Īmān (Translation of Quran)] (Part 25, Sūrah Shūrā, verses 49, 50)

'Allāmā Maulānā Sayyid Muhammad Na'īmuddin Murādābādī رَحْمَةُ اللّٰه عَلَيْه has stated, 'He عَزَّوَجَلَّ is the Creator and Owner of everything, He عَزَّوَجَلَّ distributes His bounties as He عَزَّوَجَلَّ wants. This was also the case with the honourable Prophets عَلَيْهِمُ السَّلَام, Sayyidunā Lūṭ عَلَيْهِ السَّلَام and Sayyidunā Shu'aib عَلَيْهِ السَّلَام had only daughters, no sons, while Sayyidunā Ibrāhīm عَلَيْهِ السَّلَام had only sons, no daughters and the Beloved and Blessed Prophet صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم had four sons and four daughters. Sayyidunā Yaḥyā عَلَيْهِ السَّلَام and Sayyidunā 'Īsā عَلَيْهِ السَّلَام did not have any children.' (Khuzāin-ul-'Irfān, pp. 777)

Valid exemptions for not observing fast

Dear Islamic brothers! Although there are certain conditions and compulsions in which a person is allowed to miss his/her fast, the missed fasts are not forgiven due to compulsions. It is Farḍ to make up for them (do Qaḍā) after being relieved of the compulsion. Even so, there will be no sin in case of missing the fast due to any valid (Sharʻī) compulsion, as clearly stated in 'Bahār-e-Sharī'at' with the reference of 'Durr-e-Mukhtār.'

The valid Sharʻī compulsions of missing a fast include travelling, pregnancy, breast feeding, sickness, old age, fear of being killed and Ikrāh (i.e. threat of being killed or beaten severely or any body part being cut). If somebody forces the fasting person to break his fast, and if the fasting person knows for sure that threatener would do what he threatens, so he can break his fast in this situation) loss of wisdom and Jihad. If somebody does not fast on account of the aforementioned reasons, he will not be regarded as sinner. (Durr-e-Mukhtār – Rad-dul-Muḥtār, pp. 402, vol. 3)