Sunday, July 26, 2026

Intentions for Pilgrims of Umrah | 2

 1.      During Ṭawāf and Sa'ī, I will avoid pushing and shoving people. (To deliberately shove someone causing discomfort to him is the violation of his right and a sin. The one who has done so will have to repent of it and seek forgiveness from the one he has caused discomfort to. Our pious predecessors have stated, ‘To give up even the smallest of deeds disliked by Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ is dearer to me than to perform 500 Nafl Hajj.’)

(Jāmi’-ul-‘Ulūm wal-Ḥukm li-Ibn Rajab, pp. 125)

2.      I will attain blessings by keeping the company of the scholars and Mashāikh of Ahl-us-Sunnaḥ and by beholding them. I will also request them to make Du’ā for my forgiveness without accountability.

3.      I will perform worship in abundance. Particularly I will offer five daily Ṣalāḥ regularly.

4.      I repent of my sins forever and will keep the company of the righteous only.

5.      After returning from 'Umrah, I will refrain from sins altogether, perform good deeds in abundance and act upon Sunnaḥ even more enthusiastically.

6.      I will visit the holy places of Makka-tul-Mukarramaḥ and Madīna-tul-Munawwaraḥ زَادَهُمَا اللَّهُ شَرَفًا وَتَعْظِيمًا.

7.      I will see the holy city of Madīna-tul-Munawwaraḥ زَادَهُمَا اللَّهُ شَرَفًا وَتَعْظِيمًا with the intention of gaining reward considering it a privilege.

8.      Before I humbly make my first visit to the blessed court of the Holy Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالَى عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّم, I will take a bath, wear new white clothes, new head-cloth, cap and turban. I will also apply kohl into my eyes and nice fragrance to my clothes.

9.      I will humbly attend the court of the Beloved and Blessed Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالَى عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّم acting upon the following commandment of Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ:

وَلَوْ أَنَّهُمْ إِذْ ظَلَمُوۡا أَنْفُسَهُمْ جَآءُوكَ

فَاسْتَغْفَرُوا اللَّهَ وَاسْتَغْفَرَ لَهُمُ الرَّسُولُ لَوَجَدُوا اللَّهَ تَوَّابًا رَّحِيمًا

And if they ever do injustice to their souls, then O Beloved! They should come to you and then beg Allah for forgiveness and the Prophet should intercede for them, then surely, they would find Allah the Most Acceptor of repentance, the Most Merciful.

[Kanz-ul-Īmān (Translation of Quran)] (Part 5, Sūrah an-Nisā, verse 64)

10.  If possible, I will humbly attend the court of my Beloved and Blessed Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالَى عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّم like an escaped slave who trembles and sheds tears when returning to the court of his master.

(Parable:

Whenever Sayyidunā Imām Mālik عَلَيْهِ رَحْمَةُ اللَّهِ الْخَالِق talked about the Holy Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالَى عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّم, the colour of his face would change and he would bow down in respect. Parable: Someone asked Sayyidunā Imām Mālik عَلَيْهِ رَحْمَةُ اللَّهِ الْخَالِق about Sayyidunā Ayyūb Sakhtiyānī قُدِّسَ سِرُّهُ الرَّبَّانِی. Imām Mālik عَلَيْهِ رَحْمَةُ اللَّهِ الْخَالِق replied, ‘He is the best of all narrators I narrate Aḥādīš from. I saw him two times during Hajj-pilgrimage. Whenever someone mentioned the Beloved and Blessed Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالَى عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّم in his presence, he would weep so bitterly that I would feel pity for him. Impressed by his reverence and devotion to the Holy Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالَى عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّم I started narrating Aḥādīš from him).

(Ash-Shifā, vol. 2, pp. 41, 42)

11.  I will present my Salām in the blessed court of the Holy Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالَى عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّم with respect, honour and devotion in a melancholic and soft voice.

12.  I will keep my voice rather low acting upon the Quranic commandment:

يَأَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لَا تَرْفَعُوا أَصْوَاتَكُمْ فَوْقَ صَوْتِ النَّبِيِّ وَلَا تَجْهَرُوا لَهُ

بِالْقَوْلِ كَجَهْرِ بَعْضِكُمْ لِبَعْضٍ أَنْ تَحْبَطَ أَعْمَالُكُمْ وَأَنْتُمْ لَا تَشْعُرُونَ

O those who believe! Do not raise your voices higher than the voice of the one who reveals Ghayb (the Prophet), nor speak to him loudly the way you shout to one another, lest your deeds go to waste whilst you are unaware.

[Kanz-ul-Īmān (Translation of Quran)] (Part 26, Sūrah al-Ḥujurāt, verse 2)

13.  I will beg for intercession by repeatedly uttering اَسْأَلُكَ الشَّفَاعَةَ يَا رَسُولَ الله (i.e. Yā Rasūlallāh صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالَى عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّم! I beg you for intercession).

14.  I will also present my Salām in the blessed courts of Sayyidunā Abū Bakr Ṣiddīq and Sayyidunā Fārūq A'zam رَضِيَ اللهُ تَعَالُى عَنْهُمَا.

15.  Whilst present in the blessed courts, I will avoid looking here and there and peeping into the Golden Grilles.

16.  I will present the Salām of the people who have requested me to do so in the court of the Prophet of Raḥmaḥ, the Intercessor of Ummaḥ صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالَى عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّم.

17.  I will not turn my back on the Golden Grilles.

18.  I will present Salām to those buried in Jannat-ul-Baqī’.

19.  I will humbly visit the blessed tombs of Sayyidunā Ḥamzaḥ رَضِيَ اللهُ تَعَالَى عَنْهُ and martyrs of the Uḥud battle. I will make Du’ā and Īṣāl-e-Šawāb, and will behold the mount Uḥud.

20.  I will humbly attend the Qubā Masjid.

21.  I will respect each and every thing of Madīnah, even its doors and walls, fruits and leaves, flowers and thorns, stones and dust. (Parable: Sayyidunā Imām Mālik عَلَيْهِ رَحْمَةُ اللَّهِ الْخَالِق never defecated in Madīnah زَادَهُمَا اللَّهُ شَرَفًا وَتَعْظِيمًا in respect of its soil. He would go out of Ḥaram for this. However, he was unable to go out of Ḥaram when severely ill.)

(Bistān-ul-Muḥaddiŝīn, pp. 19)

22.  I will not find fault with anything of Madīna-tul-Munawwaraḥ زَادَهُمَا اللَّهُ شَرَفًا وَتَعْظِيمًا.

Parable:

In Madīna-tul-Munawwaraḥ زَادَهُمَا اللَّهُ شَرَفًا وَتَعْظِيمًا, there was a person who would always weep and seek forgiveness. When asked about it, he replied, ‘Once I said that the blessed curd of Madīna-tul-Munawwaraḥ زَادَهُمَا اللَّهُ شَرَفًا وَتَعْظِيمًا was sour and tasteless. As soon as I said this, I was deprived of my spiritual attachment and was rebuked in these words, ‘O the one who has said that the curd of Madīnah is sour and tasteless! See with the eyes of a devotee! Each and every thing of the street of the Beloved is nice.’)

(Derived from Bahār-e-Mašnavī, pp. 128)

Parable:

In the presence of Sayyidunā Imām Mālik عَلَيْهِ رَحْمَةُ اللَّهِ الْخَالِق, someone said, ‘The soil of Madīna-tul-Munawwaraḥ is bad.’ Listening to this, he gave the Fatwā that the impudent person be given 30 lashes and be imprisoned.)

(Ash-Shifā, vol. 2, pp. 57)

23.  In order to give gifts to my relatives and Islamic brothers, I will bring Zamzam water, dates of Madīna-tul-Munawwaraḥ زَادَهُمَا اللَّهُ شَرَفًا وَتَعْظِيمًا and simple inexpensive rosaries. (A’lā Ḥadrat رَحْمَةُ اللهِ تَعَالَى عَلَيْهِ was asked the following question: What should a rosary be made up of? Wood or stone etc? He replied, ‘Whether a rosary is made up of wood or stone, it is permissible, but it should not be expensive as it is Makrūḥ. If it is made up of silver or gold, then it is Ḥarām).

(Fatāwā Razawiyyah, vol. 23, pp. 597)

24.  I will recite Ṣalāt-‘Alan-Nabī in abundance during my stay in Madīna-tul-Munawwaraḥ زَادَهُمَا اللَّهُ شَرَفًا وَتَعْظِيمًا.

25.  During my stay in Madīna-tul-Munawwaraḥ زَادَهُمَا اللَّهُ شَرَفًا وَتَعْظِيمًا, whenever I pass by the green dome, I will immediately turn towards it and will recite Ṣalāt-‘Alan-Nabī whilst standing with my hands folded in respect. [Parable: In Madīna-tul-Munawwaraḥ زَادَهُمَا اللَّهُ شَرَفًا وَتَعْظِيمًا, a person came to Sayyidunā Abū Ḥāzim رَحْمَةُ اللهِ تَعَالَى عَلَيْهِ and told him that he saw the Holy Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالَى عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّم in his dream. The Beloved and Blessed Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالَى عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّم said, ‘Say it to Abū Ḥāzim! You pass by me even without stopping to say Salām to me.’ Since then whenever Sayyidunā Abū Ḥāzim رَحْمَةُ اللهِ تَعَالَى عَلَيْهِ passed by the blessed tomb, he would present Salām whilst standing with respect].

(Al-Manāmāt ma’ Mawsū’ah Ibn Abid Dunyā, vol. 3, pp. 153, Ḥadīš 323)

26.  If I am not blessed with burial in Jannat-ul-Baqī’ and the heartrending moment of departure from Madīna-tul-Munawwaraḥ زَادَهُمَا اللَّهُ شَرَفًا وَتَعْظِيمًا approaches, I will make my farewell visit to the blessed court of the Holy Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالَى عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّم and will plead tearfully for visits to Madīnah again and again.

27.  If possible, I will leave like a child who is being separated from his loving mother, crying and looking at the blessed court with wistful eyes.

Intentions for Pilgrims of Umrah | 1

(Including narrations, parables and Madani pearls)

(Those going to perform Hajj and 'Umrah should make only those intentions which are possible for them and which they really intend to act upon.)

1.      I will perform 'Umrah for the attainment of the pleasure of Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ only. (Sincerity is a condition for 'Umrah being accepted. In order to attain sincerity, it is essential to avoid the causes leading to ostentation and fame.)

2.      I will perform 'Umrah following the example of the Beloved and Blessed Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالَى عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّم.

3.      I will seek my parents' prior consent. (The wife should get her husband's consent. The debtor who is unable to pay debt should take permission from the creditor.) (Derived from Bahār-e-Sharī'at, vol. 1, pp. 1051)

4.      I will perform 'Umrah with Halāl earnings.

5.      At the time of departure, I will seek forgiveness from my family members, relatives and friends regarding their rights I may have violated. I will make them pray for me. (One attains blessings when others pray for him. The prayer made by others for a person is more likely to be answered. It is stated on page 111 of ‘Blessings of Du’ā’ [the 326-page publication of Maktaba-tul-Madīnah, the publishing department of Dawat-e-Islami]:

Sayyidunā Mūsā عَلَيْهِ السَّلَام was told, ‘O Mūsā! Make Du’ā to Me with the tongue with which you have not committed any sin.’ Sayyidunā Mūsā عَلَيْهِ السَّلَام said, ‘Almighty! Where should I bring such a tongue from?’ (Note that this is the humbleness of Sayyidunā Mūsā عَلَيْهِ السَّلَام because every Prophet عَلَيْهِ السَّلَام is absolutely protected from committing any sin.) Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ said, ‘Make others pray for you as you have not committed any sin with their tongue.’)

(Derived from Mašnavī Maulānā Rūm, Duftar Sawm, pp. 31)

6.      I will take extra provisions and earn reward by spending them on my companions and by giving them to deserving beggars as charity.

7.      I will protect my tongue and eyes, etc. from using them unlawfully. (A Ḥadīš is stated on pages 29 and 30 of the book ‘Naṣīḥataun kay Madanī Phūl.’ Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ has said: O son of Ādam! Your Dīn (religion) cannot be perfect unless your tongue is straight, and your tongue cannot be straight unless you have shyness from your Rab عَزَّوَجَلَّ. Another Ḥadīš states: The one who lowers his eyes from the things declared Ḥarām by Me (i.e. the one who avoids seeing them), I will bestow upon him shelter from Hell.)

8.      During the journey, I will remain busy remembering Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ and reciting Ṣalāt-‘Alan-Nabī. (An angel accompanies the one who does so, whereas a Satan accompanies the one who listens to songs or indulges in useless gossip).

9.      I will make Du’ā for myself and for all Muslims. (The Du’ā made by a traveller is accepted. It is also stated on page 220 of the book ‘Blessings of Du’ā’: The Du’ā made by a Muslim for his fellow Muslim in his absence is accepted. It is stated in a Ḥadīš,

 ‘This Du’ā (made for a Muslim in his absence) is accepted very quickly. Angels say, ‘The Du’ā you have made for him will be accepted and you will also get a similar favour.’)

10.  I will talk politely to everyone, and will serve Muslims with meals as much as I can afford.

11.  If I face difficulties, I will have patience.

12.  Behaving in a polite manner, I will serve my companions. I will avoid anger and useless talking. If people said hurtful things, I will tolerate them.

13.  I will politely treat all the orthodox Arab Muslims (no matter they treat me harshly). (It is stated in Bahār-e-Sharī'at on page 1060, part 6, volume 1: Treat all the Arabs including the Bedouins with extreme politeness. Even if they behave you harshly, endure it with patience. Our Beloved and Blessed Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالَى عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّم has promised to intercede for the one displaying patience in response to the harshness of the Arabs. Do not criticize the acts of the dwellers of Makkah and Madinah and those of any other Arab. Do not even think I’ll of them in your heart as this is beneficial in the worldly life as well as in the afterlife).

14.  I will be careful not to cause trouble to people even at crowded places. If anyone causes me trouble I will have patience and forgive him. (It is stated in a Ḥadīš that if a person holds back his anger, Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ will prevent torment from (being inflicted on) him on the Day of Judgement.) (Shu'ab-ul-Īmān, vol. 6, pp. 315, Ḥadīš 8311)

15.  As long as possible, I will act upon the Sunnaḥs of journey conforming to its rulings and manners.

16.  I will earn reward by inviting the Muslims towards righteousness making individual effort.

17.  Whilst in the state of Iḥrām, I will frequently recite Labbayk. (Islamic brothers should recite it loudly while Islamic sisters should recite it quietly.)

18.  Whilst entering the blessed Masjid-ul-Ḥarām and Masjid-un-Nabawī, I will place my right foot first into the Masjid and recite the Du’ā of entering the Masjid. Similarly, whilst exiting the Masjid, I will place out my left foot first and recite the Du’ā of exiting the Masjid.

19.  Whenever I enter the blessed Masjid-ul-Ḥarām and Masjid-un-Nabawī, I will make the intention of Nafl I'tikāf, earning reward. (Remember that eating something including Saḥarī and Iftār, drinking water and even Zamzam water, and sleeping are all impermissible in Masjid. If you have made the intention of I'tikāf, these acts will be permissible.)

20.  As soon as I have my first glance at the Holy Ka'baḥ, I will recite Ṣalāt-‘Alan-Nabī and make Du’ā.

21.  During Ṭawāf, I will make Du’ā for my forgiveness and that of the entire Ummaḥ at Mustajāb (where 70,000 angels are present to say Āmīn to Du’ā).

22.  Whenever I drink Zamzam water, I will drink it to my full stomach by sucking it in three breaths having recited بِسْمِ اللهِ whilst standing and facing the Qiblaḥ with the intention of acting upon Sunnaḥ. I will then make Du’ā as it is an occasion of the acceptance of Du’ā. (The Holy Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالَى عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّم has stated, ‘The difference between us and the hypocrites is that they do not drink Zamzam to their full stomach’).

(Ibn Mājah, vol. 3, pp 489, Ḥadīš 3061)

23.  Whilst clinging onto Multazam out of love and devotion, I will make the intention of attaining the closeness of Ka'baḥ and its Creator عَزَّوَجَلَّ and gaining blessings from it. (Do this with the hope that every such part of my body that is touching the blessed Ka'baḥ will be free from Hell, اِنْ شَاءَ اللّٰہَ عَزَّوَجَلَّ.)

24.  Whilst clinging onto the cover of the blessed Ka'baḥ, I will make the intention as if I am imploring Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ for forgiveness and protection like the one who implores a person feeling guilty of his crime and holding that person’s dress with extreme humility, and continues to do so unless he is forgiven and granted protection in future. (People apply fragrance to the cover of the blessed Ka'baḥ; therefore, take care when in the state of Iḥrām.)

25.  Whilst performing Ramī of Jamarāt, I will make the intention of following the example of Sayyidunā Ibrāhīm Khalīlullāh عَلَيْهِ السَّلَام, acting upon the Sunnaḥ of the Holy Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالَى عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّم, disgracing and driving off Satan and that of stoning desires of Nafs.

[Parable:

Sayyidunā Junayd Baghdādī عَلَيْهِ رَحْمَةُ اللَّهِ الْهَادِی asked a Ḥājī whether he stoned his desires of Nafs or not whilst performing Ramī. He replied in the negative. Sayyidunā Junayd Baghdādī عَلَيْهِ رَحْمَةُ اللَّهِ الْهَادِی said, ‘You did not perform Ramī.’ (That is, you did not perform it as it should be performed)].

(Derived from Kashf-ul-Maḥjūb, pp. 363)

Silah Rahmi ki Ahmiyat aur Rishtedaron ke Huqooq

 

قَطْعِ رحمی حرام ہے“کے 13 حُرُوف کی نسبت سےصِلَةُ رَحْمى کے 13 مَدَنی پھول

فرمانِ الہی عَزَّوَجَلَّ:

وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ الَّذِي تَسَاءَلُونَ بِهِ وَالْأَرْحَامَ

ترجمۂ کنز العيمان

”اور اللہ سے ڈرو، جس کے نام پر مانگتے ہو اور رشتوں کا لحاظ رکھو۔“

اس آیتِ مبارکہ کے تحت ”تفسیر مُظْهَرِی“ میں ہے:

یعنی تم قَطْعِ رَحْم (یعنی رشتے داروں سے تعلُّق توڑنے) سے بچو۔

7 فَرَامِينِ مُصْطَفٰى صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالَى عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّم

 ﴿۱﴾ جو اللہ اور قیامت پر ایمان رکھتا ہے اسے چاہئے کہ صِلَةُ رَحْمِی کرے

 ﴿۲﴾ قیامت کے دن اللہ عَزَّوَجَلَّ کے عرش کے سائے میں تین قسم کےکے لوگ ہوں گے، (ان میں سے ایک یہ ہے) صِلَةُ رَحْمِی کرنے والا

﴿۳﴾ رشتہ کاٹنے والا جَنَّت میں نہیں جائے گا

﴿۴﴾ لوگوں میں سے وہ شخص سب سے اچھا ہے جو کِشْرَت سے قرآن کریم کی تلاوت کرے، زیادہ متقی ہو، سب سے زیادہ نیکی کا حکم دینے اور برائی سے منع کرنے والا ہو اور سب سے زیادہ صِلَةُ رَحْمِی (یعنی رشتے داروں کے ساتھ اچھا برتاؤ) کرنے والا ہو

﴿۵﴾ بے شک افضل ترین صدقہ وہ ہے جو دشمنی چھپانے والے رشتے دار پر کیا جائے

﴿۶﴾ جس قوم میں قاطع رحم (یعنی رشتے داری توڑنے والا) ہو، اُس قوم پر اللہ کی رحمت کا نزول نہیں ہوتا

﴿۷﴾ جسے یہ پسند ہو کہ اُس کے لیے (جَنَّت میں) محل بنایا جائے اور اُس کے دَرجات بلند کیے جائیں، اسے چاہئے کہ جو اس پر ظلم کرے یہ اسے معاف کرے اور جو اسے محروم کرے یہ اسے عطا کرے اور جو اس سے قَطْعِ تعلُّق کرے یہ اس سے ناطہ (یعنی تعلُّق) جوڑے

(المُسْتَدْرَک ج ۳ ص ۱۲ حدیث ۳۲۱۵)

حضرتِ سَيِّدُنا نافِقیہ ابواللیث سَمَرْقَنْدِی عَلَيْهِ رَحْمَةُ اللَّهِ الْقَوِی فرماتے ہیں، صِلَةُ رَحْمِی کرنے کے 10 فائدے ہیں:

1.    اللہ عَزَّوَجَلَّ کی رِضا حاصل ہوتی ہے،

2.    لوگوں کی خوشی کا سبب ہے،

3.    فِرِشتوں کو مَسَرَّت ہوتی ہے،

4.    مسلمانوں کی طرف سے اس کی تعریف ہوتی ہے،

5.    شیطان کو اس سے رَنج پہنچتا ہے،

6.    عُمْر بڑھتی ہے،

7.    رِزْق میں بَرَکت ہوتی ہے،

8.    فوت ہو جانے والے آبا و اجداد (یعنی مسلمان باپ دادا) خوش ہوتے ہیں،

9.    آپس میں مَحَبَّت بڑھتی ہے،

10.    وفات کے بعد اس کے ثواب میں اضافہ ہوجاتا ہے، کیونکہ لوگ اس کے حق میں دعائے خیر کرتے ہیں

(تَنْبِیہُ الغافلین ص ۷۳)

دعوتِ اسلامی کے اشاعتی ادارے مکتبۃُ المدینہ کی مطبوعہ 1196 صفحات پر مشتمل کتاب ”بہارِ شریعت“ جلد 3 صفحہ 558 تا 560 پر ہے: صِلَةُ رَحْم کے معنی رشتے کو جوڑنا ہے یعنی رشتے والوں کے ساتھ نیکی اور سُلُوک کرنا۔ ساری اُمَّت کا اس پر اتفاق ہے کہ صِلَةُ رَحْم ”واجب“ ہے اور قَطْعِ رَحْم (یعنی رشتہ توڑنا) ”حرام“ ہے۔

جن رشتے والوں کے ساتھ صِلَةُ (رَحْم) واجب ہے وہ کون ہیں؟

بعض علمانے فرمایا: وہ ذُو رَحِم مَحْرَم ہیں اور بعض نے فرمایا:

اس سے مراد دُورِ رَحِم ہیں، مَحْرَم ہوں یا نہ ہوں۔ اور ظاہر یہی قول دُوُم ہے، احادیث میں مُطْلَقاً (یعنی بغیر کسی قید کے) رشتے والوں کے ساتھ صِلَةُ (یعنی سُلُوک) کرنے کا حکم آتا ہے، قرآن مجید میں مُطْلَقاً (یعنی بلا قید) ذَوِی الْقُرْبَى (یعنی قرابت والے) فرمایا گیا مگر یہ بات ضرور ہے کہ رشتے میں چونکہ مختلف دَرَجات ہیں (اسی طرح) صِلَةُ رَحْم (یعنی رشتے داروں سے حُسنِ سُلُوک) کے دَرَجات میں بھی تفاوت (یعنی فرق) ہوتا ہے۔ والدین کا مرتبہ سب سے بڑھ کر ہے، ان کے بعد دُورِ رَحِم مَحْرَم کا، (یعنی وہ رشتے دار جن سے نسبی رشتہ ہونے کی وجہ سے نکاح ہمیشہ کیلئے حرام ہو) ان کے بعد بقیہ رشتے والوں کا علیٰ قَدْرِ مراتب (یعنی رشتے میں نزدیکی کے ترتیب کے مطابق)

(رَدُّ المُحتار ج ۹ ص ٦٧٨)

صِلَةُ رَحْمِی (یعنی رشتے داروں کے ساتھ سُلُوک) کی مختلف صورتیں ہیں، ان کو ہَدِیَّہ و تُحفہ دینا اور اگر ان کو کسی بات میں تمہاری اعانت (یعنی امداد) درکار ہو تو اس کام میں ان کی مدد کرنا، انہیں سلام کرنا، ان کی ملاقات کو جانا، ان کے پاس اُٹھنا بیٹھنا، ان سے بات چیت کرنا،ان کے ساتھ لطف و مہربانی سے پیش آنا

(دُرَر ج ۱ ص ۳۲۳)

اگر یہ شخص پردیس میں ہے تو رشتے والوں کے پاس خط بھیجا کرے، ان سے خط و کتابت جاری رکھے تاکہ بے تعلُّقی پیدا نہ ہونے پائے اور ہو سکے تو وطن آئے اور رشتے داروں سے تعلُّقات تازہ کرلے، اس طرح کرنے سے مَحَبَّت میں اضافہ ہوگا۔

(رَدُّ المُحتار ج ۹ ص ٦٧٨)

فون یا انٹرنیٹ کے ذَرِیْعے بھی رابطے کی ترکیب مُفید ہے

صِلَةُ رَحْمِی (رشتے داروں کے ساتھ اچھا سلوک) اسی کا نام نہیں کہ وہ سلوک کرے تو تم بھی کرو، یہ چیز تو حقیقت میں مُکافاة یعنی بدلا کرنا ہے کہ اس نے تمہارے پاس چیز بھیج دی تم نے اس کے پاس بھیج دی، وہ تمہارے یہاں آیا تم اس کے پاس چلے گئے۔ حقیقتًا صِلَةُ رَحْم (یعنی کامل دَرَجے کا صِلَةُ رَحْم) یہ ہے کہ وہ کاٹے اور تم جوڑو، وہ تم سے جدا ہونا چاہتا ہے، بے اعتنائی (بے ۔ اِع ۔ تے۔ نائی۔ یعنی لاپرواہی) کرتا ہے اور تم اس کے ساتھ رشتے کے حقوق کی مُراعات (یعنی لحاظ و رعایت) کرو۔ (ايضاً)

مسلمان کو مَحَبَّت سے دیکھنے کا ثواب

فَرْمَانِ مُصْطَفٰى صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالَى عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّم:

جو مسلمان اپنے بھائی سے مُصَافَحہ کرے اور کسی کے دل میں دوسرے سے عداوت نہ ہو تو ہاتھ جُدا ہونے سے پہلے اللہ عَزَّوَجَلَّ دونوں کے گُزشتہ گناہوں کو بخش دے گا اور جو کوئی اپنے مسلمان بھائی کی طرف مَحَبَّت بھری نظر سے دیکھے اور ائُس کے دل میں کینہ نہ ہو تو نگاہ لوٹنے سے پہلے دونوں کے پچھلے گناہ بخش دیئے جائیں گے۔

(کَنْزُ الْعُمَّال ج ۹ ص ۵۷ حدیث ۲۵۳۵۸)