Respect for Muslims, Parents & Family

Excellence of Salat-'Alan-Nabi

The Prophet of Rahmah صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالَى عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّم said: "The closest to me on the Day of Judgement will be the one who will have recited more Salat upon me."

(Sunan-ut-Tirmizi, vol. 2, pp. 27, Hadees 484)

Fake coin

A fire worshiper used to get his clothes sewn by Sayyiduna Shaykh Abu 'Abdullah Khayyaat رَحْمَةُ اللهِ تَعَالَى عَلَيْهِ and would give a fake coin each time which he رَحْمَةُ اللهِ تَعَالَى عَلَيْهِ accepted knowingly.

Once, in his absence, the apprentice did not accept the fake coin from the fire worshiper. When Sayyiduna Shaykh Abu 'Abdullah Khayyaat رَحْمَةُ اللهِ تَعَالَى عَلَيْهِ returned and learnt about the situation, he رَحْمَةُ اللهِ تَعَالَى عَلَيْهِ asked the apprentice, "Why didn't you take the coin? For many years, he has been giving me a fake coin which I always accepted so that he will not give it to any other Muslim."

(Ihya-ul-'Uloom, vol. 3, pp. 87)

What does Dawat-e-Islami want?

Dear Islamic brothers! Did you see! Our pious predecessors رَحْمَهُمُ اللهُ تَعَالَى had the sincere feeling of respecting other Muslims. They used to bear their personal loss just to save other strange Muslims even from accidental loss, whereas today, a brother is seen robbing his own brother.

The worldwide non-political movement, Dawat-e-Islami wants to rekindle the memories of our pious predecessors رَحِمَهُمُ اللهُ تَعَالَى. Dawat-e-Islami removes hatred and spreads love. Every Islamic brother should routinely travel with the Madani Qafilahs in the company of devotees of Rasool in order to learn Sunnahs, fill in Madani In'amaat booklet doing Fikr-e-Madinah and hand it in to the relevant responsible Islamic brother on the first day of every Islamic month.

For the sake of Beloved Mustafa صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالَى عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّم, enthusiasm for respect for Muslims will be generated إِنْ شَاءَ اللهُ عَزَّوَجَلَّ. If all of us treat each other with respect from the bottom of our heart, our society will once again turn into a beautiful, attractive, fragrant and evergreen garden of Madinah laden with multi-coloured flowers إِنْ شَاءَ اللهُ عَزَّوَجَلَّ.

Three people are initially deprived of Heaven

Parents and ذوى الْأَرْحَامِ [Zawil-Arhaam] (i.e. those who have blood relation in respect of closeness) deserve to be treated with most respect and kindness in society, but unfortunately, very little attention is paid to this matter now. Some people look very humble and sociable in public but they mistreat their family-members, especially their parents. Here is a Hadees for such people.

Sayyiduna 'Abdullah Ibn Umar رَضِيَ اللَّهُ تَعَالَى عَنْهُمَا has narrated the Greatest and Holiest Prophet صَلَّى اللَّهُ تَعَالَى عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّم said:

"Three people will not enter Heaven: One who distresses his parents; Dayyoos and the woman who adopts masculine style."

(Majma'-uz-Zawaid, vol. 8, pp. 270, Hadees 13431)

Definition of Dayyoos

The foregoing Hadees states that a Dayyoos as well as the one who distresses his parents will not enter the Heaven.

Dayyoos is the person who does not care about his wife or any other Mahram woman's (indecent) behaviour with other men.

(Durr-e-Mukhtar, vol. 6, pp. 113)

That is, those who have the power to prevent their mother, wife, sisters and young daughters etc. but still do not prevent them from wandering without veil in streets, marketplaces, shopping malls, and mixed picnic spots; as well as those who do not prevent them from talking freely to non-Mahram neighbours, relatives, employees, gatekeepers and drivers are Dayyoos and deprived of Heaven, deserving Hell.

Remember! Besides other non-Mahram people, Shari'ah has declared it essential to observe veil with both paternal and maternal first cousins, the wife of the brother of one's father and mother, the husband of one's mother's sister and that of one's father's sister, sister-in-law and brother-in-law. If the wife does not observe Shar'i veil with them, she will deserve Hell. If the husband does not prevent her from this sin to the extent to which he can do, then he is a Dayyoos by Shari'ah and initially deprived of Heaven, deserving hellfire. The Dayyoos who commits this sin openly is a Faasiq-e-Mu'lin, incapable of leading Salah and giving witness.

Woman wearing masculine clothes is deprived of Heaven

It is stated in a Hadees that the woman who adopts masculine styles will be deprived of Heaven. The woman who wears masculine clothes, shoes, or has a masculine hairstyle also deserves the same punishment. These days, people do not take care of this matter when dressing children (Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ forbid, sometimes, boys are made to wear the dress of girls making them look like girls).

Similarly, not only are girls made to wear shirts and trousers with masculine hats etc. but are also made to have a boyish haircut, which makes them look like boys. Sadr-ush-Shari'ah, Badr-ut-Tareeqah, Allamah Maulana Mufti Muhammad Amjad Ali A'zami عَلَيْهِ رَحْمَةُ اللهِ الْقَوِى has stated:

"Applying henna to the hands and feet of boys unnecessarily is impermissible. A woman can apply henna to her hands and feet but she will be sinner, if she applies henna to the hands or feet of boys."

(Bahar-e-Shari'at, vol. 3, pp. 428)

Do not dress your children in clothes which have pictures of living things on them. Do not apply nail polish to children's nails. The mother of children should never also apply nail polish to her own nails because water does not reach the nails to which nail polish has been applied and thus Wudu & Ghusl remain invalid.

Respect of the elder brother

Along with parents, other family members such as brothers and sisters should also be respected. After the father, the grandfather and elder brother are closer as the elder brother is a father's substitute. The Noblest Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالَى عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّم said:

"The right of an elder brother upon his younger brother is like the right which a father has upon his offspring."

(Shu'ab-ul-Iman, vol. 6, pp. 210, Hadees 7929)