Tuesday, August 4, 2026

The Prophet ﷺ: Gentle in Personal Matters, Firm in Allah's Commands

Forgiveness for personal enemies, yet…

Dear Islamic brothers! These incidents highlight how our beloved Prophet would treat everyone with love and compassion, as well as not become angry with anyone due to personal reasons. But when the boundaries of sharīʿah were breached in front of him and divine laws disregarded, signs of anger would become visible upon his noble forehead.

Umm al-Muʾminīn Sayyidatunā ʿĀishah Ṣiddīqah رضي الله عنها relates:

I never beheld Allah's Messenger taking revenge for the wrongdoings that were enacted upon him, as long as the boundaries laid down by Allah were not broken. When one boundary from the boundaries decreed by Allah were violated, he would then become angered greatly.¹

¹ Al-Shifā, vol. 1, p. 105

The Prophet's anger when boundaries of sharīʿah were violated

A woman from the Banu Makhzūm clan of Quraysh stole something, so the latter began to deliberate as to who could mediate for her in front of the Prophet . Eventually Sayyidunā Usāmah b. Zayd رضي الله عنه was selected, as he was beloved to the Prophet and would be able to speak with him. When Sayyidunā Usāmah mediated for said woman, the Prophet said, "Do you mediate within the boundaries of Allah?"

Allah's Messenger then stood and delivered a sermon:

O people! Nations who came before you were destroyed for this reason; when somebody of stature would steal, he would be set free, but when a poor person stole, he would be subjected to punishment. By Allah! If Fāṭimah bint Muḥammad was to steal, I would (even) cut her hand.²

¹ Al-Shamāil al-Muḥammadiyyah, p. 198, hadith: 332
² Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim: 4,410

Our beloved Prophet was boundlessly compassionate and merciful. He would excuse the oppression of his enemies. But when the sharīʿah was opposed in front of him, his noble face would become full of anger. If we see someone committing a sin, then with the intention of wishing well for a Muslim and for his betterment in the hereafter, we should rectify him due to his opposition of the sharīʿah. If there is a risk of tribulation arising due to advising him, then at least consider it bad in your heart.

On the other hand, we should display nothing but patience, forbearance, forgiveness and leniency when it comes to personal matters. No matter how much someone provokes us, we should control our hands and tongues, as well as forgive them for the sake of Allah. When the tongue becomes out of control, even the most established of matters can sometimes become ruined.

Remember! If we give up retaliating against others' mistakes for the sake of Allah and with other good intentions, our society can become a peaceful sanctuary. The impurities of tribulation and unrest will come to an end by themselves. Forbearance and soft-heartedness are liked by Allah, and he who possesses these admirable traits is very fortunate. Gentleness is nothing but the adornment of humankind. A person with good character and kind nature is loved by everyone. As a polar opposite, people flee someone who is hot-tempered and whose heart is hard. Read the following four hadith regarding softness and make an intention to adopt this beautiful quality.

Four hadith of the final Prophet regarding softness

1.      Allah is Rafīq, and He loves rifq (softness). He grants such things through kindness which He does not grant for harshness or any other reason.¹

2.      That which contains softness only becomes beautiful due to it, and that from which kindness is removed becomes defective.²

3.      He who is deprived of softness is deprived of all goodness.³

4.      Whoever is granted a portion of softness, was granted a portion from the goodness of the world and hereafter."⁴

¹ Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim: 6,601
² Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim: 6,602
³ Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim: 6,598
⁴ Musnad Imām Aḥmad: 25,314

صَلُّوْا عَلَى الْحَبِيْبِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَى مُحَمَّد

Signs of the Prophet as found in the Tawrāh

Before accepting Islam, Sayyidunā Zayd bin Saʿnah رضي الله عنه, was once a Jewish scholar. During the latter period, he purchased some dates from the final Prophet . When there were still two or three days remaining for the dates to be given, he entered the masjid and began to grasp the clothes and shawl of the Prophet . With a stern expression he said, "O Muḥammad! All the children of ʿAbd al-Muṭṭalib have the same practice of delaying when it comes to fulfilling the rights of people, and offering excuses has become your habit."

Seeing this, the second Caliph of Islam Sayyidunā ʿUmar b. al-Khaṭṭāb رضي الله عنه was overcome with anger. "O enemy of Allah!", he exclaimed, "You treat the Messenger of Allah with such disrespect? By Allah! If it were not for my etiquette in his presence, I would sever your head with my sword." The Prophet heard this and said, "O ʿUmar! What are you saying? You should have encouraged him to fulfil his right and guided him towards making his request kindly, thereby helping both of us."

The Prophet declared, "O ʿUmar! Give him the dates he is rightfully afforded, and some extra." When Sayyidunā ʿUmar رضي الله عنه gave him more dates than were due, he asked, "O ʿUmar! Why do you give me more than my right?" The second Caliph of Islam replied, "As I had frightened you with my glare, the Prophet commanded me to give you more than your due in order to bring joy to your heart."

Hearing this, he asked, "O ʿUmar! Do you know who I am?" The latter replied by saying no. "I am Zayd b. Saʿnah, a Jewish scholar." Sayyidunā ʿUmar رضي الله عنه finally asked, "So why did you disrespect Allah's Messenger like that?"

He replied:

O ʿUmar! In reality, I have seen every sign of the final Prophet mentioned in the Tawrāh in his being, but there were two signs which I had yet to test: his tolerance will precede his anger, and the more ignorantly he is treated, the more his forbearance will increase. I have seen these two signs in him through this plan of mine, and I bear witness that he is a truthful Prophet. O ʿUmar! I am a very wealthy man, so bear witness to the fact I have given half of my wealth as charity to the ummah of the Prophet .

He came to the Prophetic court and entered the fold of Islam by reciting the kalimah.¹

¹ Sīrat-i-Muṣṭafā, pp. 601-603

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